Self-development: Where do I start?

It’s not our first day of life, I’ve already developed something in me, something I haven’t. Where do you want to continue? And in general, how often should you ask yourself this question?

Once a quarter to review the priority area of self-development is enough. Do you want to do it more often? No need, it’s better to do more in the chosen direction, to get to the mark of 9-10 out of 10, and then dig in the other. Just to be sure. And so that we know exactly how and what. Let’s dig deep.

Why not a year? A year is a long time, so it’s worth revisiting more often. We often want too much for ourselves in a year, but the plan to achieve it is a bit blurred. One season – summer, fall, winter, spring – is still more specific, you have to define the details. That’s why this kind of planning makes a little more sense and is more justified. Planning for the year is good, but without quarterly details, there is likely to be a problem with implementation. They say 90% of annual plans are forgotten by the end of January.

So when setting goals, this granularity works – day, week, month, quarter (or season), year, five years. You can go further – 10, 20, 40, 80 years. But for self-development goals, a horizon of one season is over the top, and specificity is important here. Flowing into even greater specificity in the month, week and day.

As for planning for the day, there’s one rule – the one-task rule. One task, that’s one thing. That’s the whole point. We do what we can do, and we can only do one thing at a time. We have to make up our minds. Lists are important, ambitious, fun. But the whole value of a list is to help you find the very THING for now. That’s what we focus on.

How do you choose? The easiest is the usual list of areas, a score for each area where you are now, from 1 to 10, where 1 is the worst you can’t imagine, 10 is the best you can be. In that order:

  • Assessing your current state, 1 to 10.
  • An idea of what 10 is. Adjusting estimates as needed.
  • Choosing the first area with the least. Listening to intuition, if it has anything to say.
  • Making a plan of action for the coming season.

Which areas? The simplest – body, heart, mind, spirit. Want more? You’re welcome!

  • Physical development.
  • Finances
  • Character
  • Relationships
  • Family
  • Spiritual development
  • Service, contribution to humanity
  • Hobbies
  • Professional skills
  • Intellect
  • Add to the list what you want to add, remove what you don’t see the point in.

An even more radical, but quicker way to choose a priority direction of self-development is to ask yourself the question – what am I most afraid of? Fear is an indicator of a lack of knowledge or skill. It’s harder to get started, but potential progress is high. Look your fears in the eye. Ask yourself – what do I fear the most?


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