How do you strengthen relationships with your friends? The most obvious answer is to communicate more. But you’re not going to artificially increase the time of communication. If your friend doesn’t bother you for a long time, you don’t need to bother him. When you need help, either of you will contact the other.
You can, of course, go out together, socialize, if you haven’t seen each other for a long time. And if both of you are independent and capable of solving all problems by yourselves, then all that is left in communication is to share news, joys, and spend leisure time together.
How do you make such meetings you want to initiate your friends more often? Be helpful, be positive, be confident. People like to follow others’ successes, or discuss, or follow, or compete. Give your friends that opportunity, both existing and potentially new.
Can I share experiences about how to strengthen relationships with friends? You could hardly call me a perfect friend. It’s not because I’ve let anyone down – I always try to remain honest and open. Rather, it’s because I am a lazy friend. I hardly ever initiate a meeting. The schedule is so overloaded that there just isn’t time to remember that there are friends. My friends are my wife, and my children, my immediate family. They are the ones I spend the most time with. And that is more than enough for me, which keeps me from remembering my friends often and initiating meetings, although I always gladly accept such invitations.
Is there even a conflict between being a good family man and being a good friend?
What is the perfect balance here? Every night and all weekend with family is too much. Once a week meeting at a hobby club with friends and the rest of the time with family? Acceptable. Even twice a week is acceptable. 3 nights with friends is too much in my opinion. 0 times is not enough. And what are your standards for balance – share, in the comments, please.
Artificially initiating a meeting, with no reason, no inner impulse, just on a schedule – is that necessary? I wouldn’t want to stoop to that. We need to wait for that very inner impulse, the desire to see, to communicate. That very reason.
And in general – why strengthen the relationship if you don’t need it? That’s the catch – you probably do. This is where limited attitudes about friendships can come into play.
For example, “any relationship takes time to strengthen”-a strong attitude? Neutral I’d say. How about “to have a strong relationship, all you have to do is want it and then behave according to the expectations of a good strong relationship. Stronger. What a strong friendship means is mutual help, mutual support, prioritizing your friends’ needs over your own needs. The latter is the hardest part. Especially for those who are a bit steamed in time management. After all, it’s a constant struggle for time – you can spend it on your own goals or on the goals of others. What’s win-win? When you have common goals.
But a good friend can be from a completely different professional field. There has to be something else that unites. “Should”-and this is already an artificial stretching of labels and beliefs, on the natural phenomenon of friendship. It’s inspired by pop culture, even though they don’t pay that much attention to it. Saving a life, risking your life is the most popular scenario. But how often does this happen in real life? We can shift it to a scenario where we sacrifice what is important to us so that a friend doesn’t have to part with it. For example, time.
That’s the real scenario of a real friendship-I sacrifice my own time to save my friend’s time. Are you ready for that? And so after thinking about this scenario, you begin to understand what kind of friend you really are, and how to be one. A true friend will unselfishly sacrifice their time to help their friend. After all, it’s easy to help if it doesn’t cost you anything. There’s no magic in that friendship; a stranger can do it, too. It’s harder to decide when you have to sacrifice something, your plans, your moral peace of mind, all for a friend.
And this would seem to go against the principles of evolution and natural selection. But it only seems to be contrary. After all, those tribes, where individuals are ready to sacrifice themselves for the good of the whole tribe, succeed in survival. And on a micro level – when two people help each other all the time, they add up – saving time for both. Hence it is reasonable to help – if you spend potentially less time helping than your friend. In such cases, two friends are capable of more than two equally capable single people.
If you want to strengthen your friendship, be willing to help and sacrifice your time, for your friend’s sake.